Friday, August 17, 2012

Preferance and Despicable

On Wednesday night, I have just experienced a powerful lesson from an unexpected figure. All the while, she has possessed as a fierce senior, but she has shown me her view of her adulthood and insight towards life. I wished I can record down the 20 minutes chat we had.

One of the significant sharing we have is 'there is nothing right or wrong, everything is just down to personal preferance'. Similarly to what I have read about Deepak Chopra's quote, 'To be happy, you must realise this: there is no such thing as one and only one correct perspective. The best way to get what you want is to stop being right.'


This morning, the news of Arsenal FC's striker (ex-striker), Robin van Persie left Arsenal for my supporting team, Manchester United. A few of avid football friends have come on a status rant about the departure of a world class striker to the hateful team of theirs. The departure of the Dutch international certainly is a heartbreak for the Gunners fan, but must the backlash game be unleashed?

Afterall, supporting respective football club is just down to your preferance. It is most despicable when people trying to create hatred just because things are not working according to your preferance. I made it known to my friends that I am not a fan of kPop, because I think they lacked of individuality if compared to Western artists. Sometimes I can't stand the overpopular publishing on kPop from friends, that doesn't prompt me from posting nasty stuff because I respect their preferance.

All the while, there are critics about my preferance. Take supporting Manchester United for example, when asked by a new friend, she commented 'typical, typical, typical' on a cynic tone. Isn't it more typical seeing non-Man Utd fans going against a Man Utd fan?

However, I think it is at most despicable of a person is to deny one preferance and attempt to change my preferance to his/her preferance. One of the most ridiculous encounter I have was, this friend of mine questioned me being a environmentalist and to further my studies overseas. No doubt that moment was one of the downturn of the year, having those comments coming from someone I admired beforehand, is harsh and cruel.

'Do you know that bringing your own food container bring more harm to the environment than using those polystrene and plastic bag?' 'Just study locally, there is no difference studying here and overseas, you will just end up the same.' 'If you quit tomorrow without notice, that is unprofessional and your name will be barred in the industry.'

It is at most hilarious to hear that save the environment is bad. On the other side, I have heard there is no difference studying locally or overseas. If there is no difference, why are people leaving the country? The course might be the same, the lecture and tutorial might be the same. But, life in a different culture, degree in a different education system, people in a different environment, will things you learn still be the same?

Not in any ways I will question a preferance someone holds, it is their life and they can have however they want it to be. I just wish that people can actually start respect each other's like and dislike, and accept it. If things are not meant to be that way, why create hatred or negativity out of it. Leave it and shut it. You know you are standing on your ground and that is all it matters.


Love,
Wen Xin